Secondary Benefit from Stuttering
Stuttering had given me another ability: to be sensitive to others. It has taught me to be patient while listening to others. It reminded me to speak words with contents of value; not be indulged in some gibberish talk. Stuttering has given me the gift to know that the world is so beautiful, including myself.
Because of experiencing inadequate fluidity in my speech, I started voraciously reading books of wide interests.
There are books on religious teaching (more pertaining to my religion, Buddhism), psychology, speech pathogy, sports pscyhology, business psychology, family therapy, social work, yoga techniques, motivational techniques, neuro-linguistic programming, Japanese samurai etiquettes, stammering, business management, internet marketing, autobiographies of great men such as Winston Churchill, Steve Jobs etc.), write-ups and stories of gigantic enterprises like MacDonalds and eBaY…the list is endless.
I’m an super avid reader who finished reading a book of about 300 pages in one sitting.
While seeking the “cure” to my stammering since I was 18 years old, I have bumped into many great mentors who have re-affirmed me that stuttering is just like any other challenges that as human, we have to face. Other people have other problems and issues, which may be hundred times more challenging than what I am facing.
These mentors of mine had remarked that “I’m a good man“, “I have more drive than any other normal 27-year-old gentleman; always working on tasks just purely driven by my passion to add values to others.” My ladies friends had also commented that “I’m one of the rare guys that many women have dreamt of having as a life-long partner; steadfast, responsible and committed.”
In this year 2006, I have the guidance of another mentor who has opened up my world into understanding my many unique strengths that others do have the luxury of owning them. She shared with me from the strength’s perspective that I am just like any other normal human being with both weaknesses and strengths.
I also went through grief recovery and re-exploring of how the loss of my father when I was 14 years old had impacted on my growth till today. I’m an a very anxious person, always moving on hurriedly. In short, my mind moves faster than my body. This is a stressor to me. Right now, I’m learning to take it easy on myself and it is only when my anxiety has dropped to a manageable level, then I can learn to stay calm and be confident and talk more confidently.
The route is long. It may even be a life-time of cosntant struggling and being hurt. However, once I have made up mind my mind, I will Never Give Up!!!
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