Asia Stutter-Ing Association (ASIA)

If the person you are speaking too, I can understand that the speaking situation can be quite uncomfortable. There may be also times that you want to end the converstaion or even help the person to finish his sentence.

I have experienced this scenario whenever I stutter. I have friends, out of good will, trying to help me fit the sentence or complete my sentence. As much as it makes the conversational statements more complete, it doesn’t help the speaker much.

I felt what was helpful for me is for the listener to maintain eye contact with me and exhibit postive body language. These postive displays can be facing the speaker, smiling and nodding. In addition, the listener may say “Go on, I’m listening.” and say it with a smile.

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I would first like to apologise for not posting for the past few weeks. I’m in the midst of preparing my wedding. (You can view my wedding blog at www.romance-fire.com)

At the same time, I’m also thinking of what does stuttering means to me? It had been a enriching year as I explored on my inner consciousness and how my environment has shaped me since young.

The experience has been scary, torturous as well as happy and fulfilling. I have went through the stage of denial to acceptance and also learning how to cope better now, as an adult rather as a child.

I’m still thinking hard how to make this stuttering blog more useful for readers. Give me a day or two to think through. Thank you for your patience.

At the same time, I would also like to thank some members from stuttering forum for emailing me asking how I am. I’m very grateful to all of you and I’m thankful for your support.

                            

I must thank the many opportunities the many supportive people around me have been giving me. They provide opportunity to communicate with them at my own comfortable rate. Sometimes, I still stutter. The difference is I seldom felt embarassed or shameful of myself.

My fiancee encourages me to talk to her. The wonderful thing is I never stuttered in front of her. I felt totally at ease when I talk to her. >.<

I felt motivated when I communicate with some of my colleagues, especially my unit members including my supervisor. I felt at ease and felt never once looked down by them when I became anxious, stutter a bit when I'm at loss of words. Whenever I stutter, I really felt embarrased about myself but I never felt my colleagues looking down on me. Instead, they nod their heads to encourage me to say more. Nodding means to me they are really listening and it motivates me to move on. Thihs makes stuttering normal or something common in my environment.

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Recently, I visited a half-way house (a rehabilitaion and after-care centre for ex-drug addicts who have been released from prison). The Executive Director (E.D) was an ex drug addict too about 30 years old. He had been imprisoned in a prison cell before and he had been trapped and tortured before in his own mental trap.

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Everyday, there area few guardian angels around me. One of them is my fiancee. She has always been my guardian angel, reaffirming my self-worth and giving me lots of support.

The other is myself and my positive self-talk. I have a phrase that I tell myself “I have done it before and I can do it again.”

Next, the angel is within me, that is my strength. I have my own uniqueness and no other person is same as me.

I am who I am.